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The dress problem still lingers. I have decided to wait six months or so to buy, and then I will most likely take photos of the Watters dress to a dressmaker and see if they can create something similar. I have seen a few dresses available, but none in my size, or a size that could really be altered to fit me. I hate to admit it to the world, but right now I am a 14 in formal dresses, so a 10 or 12 isn't really a great fit. I am continuing to exercise, and I am putting myself on a much more strict vegetarian diet (I've really let myself slip over the past few years). In fact, I am trying to stick to a vegan diet the majority of the time. No more fish (okay, so I was a pescatarian), gelatin (HUGE SLIP THERE), and label reading galore. I had originally thought that I would try and carry out a gluten-free vegan diet, but holly crap - vegan is difficult enough! It should save me some money though - I can't eat in the cafeteria at work anymore.
Though this is a departure from the wedding theme, as long as I am talking about healthy life choices, I want to talk about quitting smoking. Casey and I have discussed quitting on and off for the last couple of years. We have decided to quit (most likely in October, though that is quite a wait for me. I am afraid I'll lose my enthusiasm.) and use the money that we would spend on cigarettes to save for a sown payment on a house. That is about $3,600 a year before any other contributions. I figure I'll add in part of my gain-sharing from work and maybe an extra $20 a paycheck once I'm making a little more money. With interest and whatever extra money Casey can contribute we should have a decent down payment before we have kids. That is, if things work out the way we plan. I know that it is not always the case.
Back to wedding related info! Previously I mentioned that I want ornamental kale. Several months ago I saw a centerpiece in a friend's bridal magazine about flowers. It was white ornamental kale, and if I remember correctly, it was potted. That is sort of what I have in mind, but of course, I can find NO pictures. The friend is no longer planning her wedding, and though I haven't asked, I am afraid she may have purged all of that research material. I'm sure it will disappoint my future mother-in-law/florist to read that the table centerpiece/decor I'm currently envisioning involves mostly potted plants, and not so many cut flowers. HOWEVER! With more than I year to plan, and no set reception site, I have not set my heart on any one idea. This is the closest picture I could find, though it isn't quite "it."

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Follow-up

I talked to my mom again, and she seemed much more accepting of my ideas, so maybe I was just expecting more push back than I'll actually get.
The dress arrived today, and though it fits, it is not "The One," so I'll be returning it soon. The bust portion of the dress actually made my boobs look even bigger than they are, and not in a good way. Oh well.

The Drama

Drama is why people read blogs, right? Well, here is your daily dose. I may be jumping the gun, really. However, I am pretty sure that this WILL be a source of drama in the future. More so than the stress and elevated heart rate it induced today.
Over and over again I hear, "Whatever you do, don't let someone else pay for your wedding. That gives them control over what you do." For those of you who don't know us, Casey and I are poor. We are paycheck to paycheck kind of people. If we were to pay for our own wedding it would be a potluck affair in our back yard after seeing a JP. Which, honestly, might be fun, but our back yard doesn't accommodate that many people, and I don't want to have to clean the house for that many people to come over.
Since we got engaged last October, we have talked about the wedding a lot. We pretty much know what we want. Most of all, we want to have our reception at Independence Brewery, catered by Boomerang's, on 10/10/10. We want it to be fun. We want to have wedding pie instead of cake. We want it to suit our personalities.
After a conversation with my mom today, I think she has very different ideas of what this will be like. She seems unconvinced about where we would like to have our reception, or the fact that I would like to have a small ceremony at a separate site with only family and close friends. She doesn't seem to buy the Boomerang's catering idea. I don't want to have a roast beef au ju dinner; I don't want to have a DJ; I don't want the kind of obnoxious photographer my sister had; I don't think it is necessary that all of our friends come to the ceremony. I want my parents to be able to enjoy the day, but I want to have a wedding that I can enjoy and have fun planning and participating in (I know I will enjoy the whole getting married part, no matter where it happens. Even if it were in a grocery store aisle).
Going through this "planning" with my mom is not going to be fun.
Oh yeah, and I want ornamental kale as a centerpiece, damn it.